The Return of Ask Anonymous

Q: If I like a guy who doesn't do as well in school as I do, shouldn't I hide my brains and talent, just a little?

A: Absolutely not. You shouldn’t have to compromise your talents and values to make someone else happy. If this guy is really the one for you he should take pride in your intelligence and want you to embrace all the great things that you have going for you. I know it’s cliche, but seriously, be yourself - your partner should fall for you, not some modified version of yourself.

Q: I have an issue, I look way younger than I am and everyone at school makes fun of me for it. There's really no positive to my situation, I don't need this "when you're 49 you're gonna appreciate it!" Stuff, because I won't. How do I make myself appear my own age?

A: I know you probably don’t want to hear this but you seriously shouldn’t change anything about yourself to appear older. It sucks that people make fun of you for it, but that’s their problem. Pointing out someone’s insecurities is mean and hurtful and I’m sorry you have to deal with that. That being said, not only should you not change yourself to please others, but you should also keep in mind that you’re not going to look young forever. I’ve never met a single person who doesn’t look different between that first day of grade nine and graduation. So even though I think you shouldn’t worry about this in the first place, don’t fret, puberty has all of our backs.

Q: Why do the Jays hate Canada and want to see us burn?

A: It’s okay fam, Norm Kelly got Lil B to bless us. We’re coming back.

Q: How do I know if I'm ready to date?

A: It’s all based on how you feel. You shouldn’t be dating just because it seems like the thing you should be doing at your age. You should only date someone if you’re completely comfortable with it. You have the rest of your life ahead of you so don’t let societal influences force you to rush into anything. I can’t really provide you with concrete advice, but honestly when you’re ready you’ll know, just let it happen naturally.

Q: If u were adopted and was told that by your adoptive parents a day before your birthday how would u react ?

A: I’d ask for more presents, probably.

Q: Should I go to Law school after undergrad although it’s very expensive and it’s what my parents want for me? I mean I like it too, but not really since I just want the 'degree' and not the actual job. If that makes sense? I need a pep talk.

A: Well, luckily you have plenty of time between now and then to decide. Once you get to University or College and have time to experiment with different classes and maybe even majors, you’ll get a better understanding of what you’re passionate about and what you want to do. I know it sometimes feels like we need to have our whole lives mapped out or else we’ll go nowhere, but I don’t think you should be making plans five years in advance. So much can happen between now and then that there’s really not a lot of point in putting so much pressure on yourself to figure everything out now. Also, I know making parents happy is always a plus, but make sure whatever is making them happy makes you happy as well. Ultimately, it’s your life and your decision and you have to do whatever’s right for you.

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