Ask Anonymous: 12/02/15

Here's the latest installment of Ask Anonymous. Submit your own questions here. Stay tuned for the next installment and our special print edition later this month!

Q: Any tips to stay calm and handle stress?

A: I highly recommend making sure you have time for yourself every day. Even if it’s just half an hour, take this time to relax, regroup, and recharge by doing whatever makes you feel at peace - whether that’s reading, playing an instrument, or napping. If you find yourself swamped with assignments and upcoming tests, try making set times to get that work done before the day it’s due so you can get that weight off of your shoulders early. However, if you still feel pressure despite your best efforts, and trust me - it happens, one of the best ways to deal with stress is to talk to someone about it. Sometimes all we need is to be able to vent and receive reassurance from others. For additional morale boosts whenever you need it, be sure to check out our Motivation Mondays posts.

Q: What if I never find my soulmate?

A: Don’t worry! You’re most likely 14-18 years old, so you have a long road ahead of you and plenty of time to find that special someone. Try focusing on yourself right now as well as your friends, family, and school and keep in mind that love usually comes around when you’re not looking for it.

Q: Some people say they are there for you, but when you really need them they're not there, why :(

A: Unfortunately this may be because these people aren’t the best people to surround yourself with. You want to be able to have a supportive group of people to raise you up instead of leave you to deal with emotionally draining problems all by yourself. However, you never know what’s happening in someone’s life. Maybe those people have a lot on their plate that they feel too overwhelmed to tackle any other problems. If you feel this way about someone in your life don’t hesitate to tell them how you feel and hopefully both of you will be able to make positive steps forward in your friendship by supporting each other better.

Q: How do you know a guy likes you?

A: All guys are different and have a different way of handling and showing their emotions, so don’t panic if the person you’re hoping likes you doesn’t meet the following criteria. Some hints that a boy is into you include him trying to talk to you on a regular basis, make jokes to impress you, talk about you to others, or just try to be around you in general. Another clue that he likes you might be if he seems nervous around you and doesn’t seem to be able to say anything clearly. They might even pull the whole elementary school approach to handling crushes and tease you constantly, which by the way to all the guys out there, this method is pretty ineffective and just ends up making you look rude. I highly recommending showing interest in them instead. Also, keep in mind that as scary as it seems, the only way you can know for certain if someone likes you is to ask them!

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